ron54, with your father being an electical contractor, he can fix you up with a autostart generator system that DISCONNECTS your electric heat during a power outage, leaving you with power for everything else, the well, the lights, the fridge, and a stoker stove if you buy one. This size of generator is about a 5-8Kw unit NOT a 30KW unit.
Go look at the stokers at the dealer tomorrow, you will like them. An Econo will be more than enough to keep your well insulated house warm in zero degree weather.
I don't know why you say a stoker has to have a power vent, they can be hooked up to a regular chimney or a power vent. If you install a power supply with a generator back up, I'd recommend using a power vent so you don't have the 'ugly issues' of the chimney on the back of the house and the expense of the chimney.
I'm surprised with your frequent power outages that you haven't already got a backup generator. MANY so called portable generators are electric start and can be wired into an auto start control that auto disconnects the high draw items like your electric heat.
You have had a lot of good advice here from a lot of members who have experience in doing what you are trying to do . They have been down the same road and are trying to smooth your way. So you don't hit the same bumps in the road that they did.