Grumpy, I like your approach, too! I'd rather have them learn respect than get knocked on their a$$, and wonder why the drapes are all sooted up with fly ash.
As you state, ALWAYS allow some fresh air over the fire to help the volatiles escape before you reach the LEL of the fuel. True for all coal burning appliances. If it ever happens to you, the next bit of advice is to educate all the others....
It does make one hell of a bang!
Smoke and CO detectors......barometric damper.....all joints in piping with 3 screws.....DO NOT leave the fire alone the first time you light it. (CLOSE the ash door if you are leaving the area......DO NOT LEAVE IT UNATTENDED!
You control the output, and while that is a simple thing, if you think the fire can't run away, think again...experience is the best teacher, aside from the NEPA forum. Safety is no accident.....not just words, a good way to live, also.
...OR, you could get a stoker and it is like going from 1750 to 2000 in simplicity. Hand feds usually need no electricity....a valuable asset with no utility power!