Child rearing?

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Child rearing?

PostBy: Northern Maine On: Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:36 pm

Is it OK to let a 13 year old boy get his ear pierced without consent from the opposing parent?
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: Coalfire On: Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:41 pm

I would say no. Why does he want his ear pierced anyway?





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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: KLook On: Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:43 pm

NO. But on a side note, I went and got mine pierced with my sons at closer to 16 for them. I did not let them have tats until they went off to college. Not as reversible. ;)

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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: Flyer5 On: Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:43 pm

Ooooh! Thats a tough one. At 13 its at the age that if you don't let them have some responsibility they will push back more. But both parents should agree.
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: Northern Maine On: Wed Jan 02, 2013 8:53 pm

Unfortunately this was done unbeknownst to me...I have no problem with piercings or tattoos....but, at an age one can be responsible to deal with it....I have many friends and family with both....I myself have chosen not to do these things to myself as I am a *censored* regarding pain!
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: tsb On: Wed Jan 02, 2013 11:23 pm

I think piercing a 13 year old without a parent present is assault.
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: NoSmoke On: Thu Jan 03, 2013 6:16 am

I could be wrong, but I am not sure that is the case here. It sounds to me like the piercing was done with a parents consent, but not by BOTH parents.

This happens to me a lot. One of my step-daughters had her real-father give her Creatine. So what is Creatine...

In their quest to run farther, jump higher, and outlast the competition, many athletes have turned to a variety of performance-enhancing drugs and supplements. Creatine is the most popular of these substances, believed to enhance muscle mass and help athletes achieve bursts of strength.

When her mother and I told him that we did not want OUR FOUR YEAR OLD to be taking body building drugs, he was like, "it is my daughter, I can do what I want if she likes it." How do you co-parent with a moron like that?

If this is the case, then I am sorry because it really sucks when two parents cannot work together in the best interest of the child.

tsb wrote:I think piercing a 13 year old without a parent present is assault.
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: Freddy On: Thu Jan 03, 2013 8:00 am

Yaaa, this isn't "Can a 13 yr old get a piercing", this is "Should both parents be required to sign for piercings on a minor". The simple answer is no. It would be a very frustrating world if both parents had to sign for every little thing that comes along. "Mom, can I go on tomorrow's class trip to the zoo?" "Sorry, but your Dad is in Afghanistan & it takes weeks to get his signature".

Now if you want to get into the "Why am I in the doghouse because I think my wife made a poor decision"... I'm staying the heck out of that!

How about the one in "Dear Abby" a few weeks back? A Mom left her very young child with grandma for the day....and grandma went & had the baby's ear's pierced!
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: freetown fred On: Thu Jan 03, 2013 8:09 am

A few questions. How do the parents get along over-all. Is this really about concern for the child or just about ego bruising.It's not like she was getting her tounge, belly or vagina pierced. "YET" & if you make enough noise over the ears, I'm sure those afore mentioned, will come in time. Even out here in farm country, I don't think many 13 yr olds don't have their ears/ ear pierced. I know mine did, cause I took them to make sure it was done properly. Not like mine which was done in a bar with ice, a potatoe & big ass needle--did I mention the Jack for sanitary reasons ;)
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: Flyer5 On: Thu Jan 03, 2013 9:10 am

freetown fred wrote:A few questions. How do the parents get along over-all. Is this really about concern for the child or just about ego bruising.It's not like she was getting her tounge, belly or vagina pierced. "YET" & if you make enough noise over the ears, I'm sure those afore mentioned, will come in time. Even out here in farm country, I don't think many 13 yr olds don't have their ears/ ear pierced. I know mine did, cause I took them to make sure it was done properly. Not like mine which was done in a bar with ice, a potatoe & big ass needle--did I mention the Jack for sanitary reasons ;)


So, how much Jack do you have to drink to avoid an "infection"? :)
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: freetown fred On: Thu Jan 03, 2013 9:17 am

Well hell Dave, the whole bottle is what is reccomended by the powers to be-- ;) Seemed to work--I think--maybe--it coulda---CRAP, I forget toothy
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: Northern Maine On: Thu Jan 03, 2013 11:16 am

I guess my concern is as follows: This 13 yo boy has to be prompted constantly to take showers, use deodorant, brush his teeth,etc. So, my concern is if can't be responsible to care for himself in these ways how will he be responsible to take care of a piercing as well as deal with his peers who do or do not approve. The connotations are endless...just trying to look at things realistically/responsibly.
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: freetown fred On: Thu Jan 03, 2013 2:06 pm

You're in atotally different circumstance, but the kids I raised understood that they got on accordance with how they acted. My feelings w/you posting on here,is you & your EX don't communicate that well :( Just the way it is I suspect. Bottom line is--it's a done deal, get over it. Choose your battles, I'm sure there will be plenty in the future that are more impt. then this. ;) Assault huh?? maybe on Judge Judy :clap: toothy
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Re: Child rearing?

PostBy: sperry On: Thu Jan 03, 2013 5:26 pm

Don't sweat the small stuff. Get ready for the real challenges coming. They are coming :shock:
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