Dann757 wrote:God bless you for providing your adorable kids with a good wholesome life!
I try. Being my step-kids it is hard. Their real dad, who kicked their Mother out of the house so he could have a new girlfriend in, likes life to be all about him and is constantly filling their heads with how sad is is at not having them at his house, and how they live so far away. He really upsets them by saying how unfair life is, but forgets that he was the one who realized he could not take care of them and signed over the parenting agreement to what it is now. It was his choice, no one forced him and it was done outside of court.
In the end I just hope they appreciate being loved just as if they were my own children. In a way it is not hard for me as I grew up in a foster home. My parents had foster kids and I (a biological child) shared my home with hundreds of unfortunate kids. I watched my parents love and adopt strange kids, so I saw first hand how to love someone that is not yours. In the end I hope they see first hand what a good marriage should be like and have a comfortable home life.
It is not easy, and their real Dad is not a Monster, its just that he expected to get rid of their Mom and have everything his way, and when it did not happen, he is upset by it.
A blended family is not easy, but I got two good step-daughters out of it, so I am blessed. Thanks for appreciating that I am trying.
Congrats.