Any more links you can provide with info on what took place? I am still a bit confused by all of this. Something I read said the guy actually lived in their home at one point? And help out around the house and with the kids while the home owner was overseas? Any truth to this?
As you all know, I support 100% the right to carry and to protect oneself. This still reads fishy to me, something just doesn't seem right. Did the wife actually get texts from this guy on a regular basis and he just turned into a freak stalker? Or was it something more?? I can find articles that say both, but you always have to consider the source.
I think about how I would respond to a 2am knock. I would first and foremost have my wife call 911 from the bedroom and report a trespasser/intruder. My property is clearly marked with well lit signs that say NO TRESPASSING-PRIVATE PROPERTY. I would then confront the knocker through the door, expressing that he is trespassing and letting him know that I will use deadly force if he attempts to gain entry. I would not unlock or open the door. After that, the decision to live another day or not is up to him. Once you physically open your door to someone, it gets hazy on what is self-defense.
All I have read states he opened the door, confronted the guy, then shut the door on him after telling him to leave. If he truly was an intruder, would he have just told him to leave and shut the door, or would he have not even opened the door in the first place? Would they have called 911 right away? I don't know...too many freaking variables with this one and he is going to have a hard time claiming self-defense, IMO.
Personally, if some nut job was stalking my wife I wouldn't open the door. I would let him know that I am armed and he is trespassing and I will use deadly force. If my old lady was running around on me with the guy while I was overseas, I would buy him a drink and pack her sh*t for him. You have to know when you cut your loses.
I wish him luck, but like I said, it seems sketchy to me. Never, ever open your door. If the intruder wants to break in, he has already made the decision to die.