franco b wrote:People buy houses to get away from things like this so they can live in peace. If at all possible and if they want the house that much, offer to sell it to them. You just might be calling their bluff and it might break the ice.
Its a big hassle to move but so is dealing with the constant stress from sullen neighbors. You have to decide which way gives you the opportunity to live in peace. I know you get your back up to think of them forcing you out, but the stress could cost a lot more in years of your life or health. Right and wrong are not in question.
I've considered this as a last resort, but I know they would be unable to get the financing (which was the problem before for them) and couldn't afford to pay cash for it. We're only here seven months, so the balance on the mortgage isn't much less than it initially was. These people are up to their ears in debt, two car payments, a motorcycle payment, house payment, numerous credit cards, they charged the remodeling of their kitchen and bathroom... so this would never work out in our favor (we hear them fight about this stuff ALL the time). Couple that with the fact that this house was everything we wanted in a home, especially in regards to our son (huge yard, right next to the park). The coal heat was just icing on the cake. It makes it harder to part with. I know it's not the only home that would suit our needs, but for what we could afford, it was everything we wanted. However, I definitely see your point regarding stress and at what point it becomes not worth it to subject ourselves to it any longer.
It's unfortunate that things have to be this way. We haven't directly given them any reason to treat us this way. In fact, after the dust had settled in the beginning, they actually talked to us like civil human beings up to the point where they asked us to keep our kid quiet all day. After that is when this stuff started. They're a middle-aged couple acting like children who didn't get their way. I think the most frustrating part about this is that we've tried to be the bigger people here and resolve this between us, but they've been completely stone-walled about it and it's basically forcing us to be confrontational (which we aren't at all) and to escalate the problem to the borough and police.