Marty's Bus

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: 009to090 On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 10:28 am

Freddy, soooo sorry to hear this about Marty. Our prayers will include you both.
Will you visit another facility to get a 2nd opinion?
009to090
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: EFM 520 HighBoy
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: DVC-500 x 2
Coal Size/Type: Anthracite Rice

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Hambden Bob On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 10:30 am

Great! Now we're moving forward with Who And What We've Got! Better give Miss Marty the Headset with Integral Mic. She's the Tour Guide. Nice music pick on the overhead entitled:"You're On My Mind" by the "Highs & Lows"! Appropriate Tune! Now I've got to learn Cribbage! I'm all in! :pepsi:
Hambden Bob
 
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Harman 1998 Magnum Stoker
Coal Size/Type: Rice-A-Roni !

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Paulie On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 10:42 am

May God bless you both and the time you have-peace.
Paulie
 
Stove/Furnace Make: leisure Line
Stove/Furnace Model: Pioneer


Re: It's not good.

PostBy: DePippo79 On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 10:54 am

God bless you and your family. May He help you through this tough time. Matt
DePippo79
 
Baseburners & Antiques: Glenwood Oak 40, Stanley Argand No. 30, Glenwood Modern Oak 114, Stanley Argand No. 20 missing parts.
Coal Size/Type: Anthracite. Stove and nut size.
Other Heating: Oil hot water.

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: mkline On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 12:58 pm

Your post brought tears to my eyes this morning Freddy :( .God bless you both and stay strong.

Mike
mkline
 
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Alaska Kodiak x 2...Old and New
Coal Size/Type: Nut and Stove/Anthracite

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: SMITTY On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 1:26 pm

Oh no Freddy .... so sorry to hear this!! :( :cry:

Man that damn cancer has snuck it's way into so many parts of my life this year... :x I just found out last night that an old acquaintance from back in the day has the same thing, except they told him he's only got weeks to live. Chemo didn't work for him. Smoked heavily also. I didn't even know he had it, but I haven't talked to him for 7 years. Just goes to show that no matter how close, or not-so-close you are to someone, keep in touch with them from time to time. Life throws curveballs, and you never know what the next day will bring! :o

Your in our prayers Freddy. Stay strong.
SMITTY
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: Patriot Coal - custom built by Jim Dorsey
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Harman Mark III (not currently in use)
Coal Size/Type: Rice / Blaschak anthracite
Other Heating: Oil fired Burnham boiler

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Freddy On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 9:26 pm

Today seemed like a long day, but a good one. Marty felt better today than the last few days. We beat her butt in a few games of cribbage then went through some old photos. A nurse came by to talk about the future & such. She wasn't here 5 minutes & SHE started crying! Gosh... we ended up feeling bad for her & gave her support. A year ago day after tomorrow her sister died.... from exactly what Marty has.....same age, same everything, except she choose to have chemo, and the first chemo made her so sick she was never the same, then 35 hours after the second dose, she died. How sad is that? The nurse was amazed at how we were handling things, and how good our attitude was. We assured her that we have our times of tears, but today was a good day.

No need for a second opinion. We personally know the Dr that analyzed the X-ray & PET scan. The symptoms and science speaks for themselves. Marty & Eloise have seen this many many times during their nursing careers. IF she was going to have chemo, then maybe a second opinion as to what drug would be the drug of choice, but, choosing to let nature take it's course, no need to have opinions. We just know that the cancer is advanced. Chemo at this time would simply change her life instantly, and change it for the worse. She would never have another decent day. The way she's choosing, she will have many good days. No one knows how many, but, you know how sometimes people say "If I she could only have one more day, one more week. ? Well, tomorrow IS that day, the next 7 days IS that week. We are going to pull up our big boy pants, wipe the tears, and smile at the sunshine. However, there will be no smiles at below zero temps!!!

Again, thank you all for the thoughts and prayers.

Tomorrow... Lobster!
Freddy
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: Axeman Anderson 130 (pea)
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Reading piece o' junk in the barn (rice)
Coal Size/Type: Pea size, Superior, deep mined

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: smokerdude On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 10:57 pm

You are in my prayers tonight.
smokerdude
 
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Keystoker 90 Alaska
Hand Fed Coal Furnace: DS Kozy King
Coal Size/Type: Nut and Rice

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: KLook On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 11:50 pm

Just reading this after getting away from the forum for awhile.........so very sorry Freddy, and I admire the professional way you are both looking at this bad turn. It says volumes about the kind of people you and Marty are. I think we have all experienced someone with the dreaded "C" word, it is surely no stranger to Marty, and I am sure she has met many friends of mine from Downeast that ended up in EMMC with the C word disease. I watched my uncle waste away and all my brother and I could think of is that we didn't go to hunting camp that year, my uncle always moved in (to camp)for the whole season. He didnt know how much time he had left and stayed at home where he could see doctors and then was told to go home and die. We still wish we had just gone to camp and bought all the whiskey he could consume. Can't get that time back. Enjoy the lobster and every sunrise you can.

Kevin
KLook
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: Harman VF 3000
Coal Size/Type: rice, bagged, Blaschak
Stove/Furnace Make: Harman (Back In Maine)
Stove/Furnace Model: VF 3000

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: windyhill4.2 On: Sat Mar 01, 2014 11:55 pm

Freddy, the tears flow as i type,yes ,.. I'm a cry baby,been that way since age 16 , Sept.11,1973 my father was killed in a farm accident,changed our lives,changed me personally,i can't read something like this without crying.1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon Him;for He careth for you. We will be praying that God gives you both the strength to face what lies ahead on your journey thru this life experience . I guess its time to reminisce about the good times you have had,& hopefully have a few more good times ahead yet.
windyhill4.2
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: 1960 EFM520 installed in truck box
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Crane 404 with variable blower
Coal Size/Type: 404-nut, 520 rice ,anthracite for both

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: titleist1 On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 12:01 am

Freddy & Marty I'm very sorry to read about your prognosis. I have a ton of respect for your decision on how to approach this lousy diagnosis.

My sister went through that choice many years ago and opted for the treatments which to this day I believe killed her quicker than not having them would have. I saw up close on a daily basis what it did to her. I also believe half of what they were doing was experimenting as much as treating her. I understand the choice she made since she had two very young girls she was fighting as hard as she could to be around for. But after watching what it did to her I always said I will decline any similar treatment and just enjoy whatever time I ended up having. Even in the middle of raising a kid I still haven't changed my mind on how I would approach it.

Like you have said, there will be good and bad days and with the attitude you are facing each day head on, it will not defeat you two no matter what type of day it is.
titleist1
 
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Harman Mag Stoker (old style) one in basement, one in workshop
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Harman Mark III on standby for long power outages
Coal Size/Type: Rice/Anthracite; Nut/Anthracite

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: snuffy On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 12:09 am

God bless you and your wife and you both will be in my prayers.

The image of so many small cells is burnished in my mind as I recall looking at my dad's CT scan in the ER and the Doctor saying to us to make his end easy. I'll pray for your strength and the miracle of remission prayers.

God Bless.
snuffy
 
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Harman SF250 & Mark III backup
Other Heating: Oil Hot Water

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: franco b On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 12:29 am

No matter what you decide I would urge buying Linus Pauling's book detailing the results with terminal cancer patients in Scotland. Only a few were in remission but all benefited.

A close friend terminally ill with emphysema, and non Hodgkin's lymphoma followed this regimen plus chemo and enjoyed four years of outstanding energy and health before submitting to an operation to remove a lobe of his lung. That killed him.
franco b
 
Hand Fed Coal Stove: V ermont Castings 2310, Franco Belge 262
Baseburners & Antiques: Glenwood Modern Oak 114
Coal Size/Type: nut and pea

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Flyer5 On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 12:33 am

I am so sorry to hear this Freddy. Just from reading on the forum I can tell what kind of people you both are, and I have to say the world would be a much better place if there were more like you and your wife. I am sure the right decision will be made. I really have no more words. I hate cancer.
Flyer5
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: Leisure Line WL110
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Leisure Line Pioneer

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: dcrane On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 6:40 am

I'm so sorry Freddy :( Same thing as dad was diagnosed with... inoperable, spread to ribs, back, eventually brain... he spent the last 4 (arguably of the best years of his life) completing his dream boat (when they had only given him months) ...good days, bad days.... they will come and you will be right their next to her everyone beautiful one of them! Try to smile, try to laugh, try to enjoy, try to share all you can and know your both in our prayers.
dcrane
 
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Crane 404