Marty's Bus

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: rubicondave33 On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 7:25 am

Freddy, I am so sorry to hear this. Our prayers go out to you and your wife. I admire the approach you two have taken in dealing with this. May God bless you all.
rubicondave33
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: EFM DF520
Coal Size/Type: Rice/Anthracite
Stove/Furnace Make: efm
Stove/Furnace Model: DF520

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Scottscoaled On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 8:14 am

Freddy, don't know what to say except my prayers go out to Marty and You. It's great to see that you are treating the time you have been given with her as a true "gift". Yes ,,, make the most of it for her. You,,, stay tough. She needs to see you being strong and yourself.
Scottscoaled
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: EFM 520x4, 700. Van Wert 1200.
Hot Air Coal Stoker Furnace: EFM 150, Keystoker 150
Coal Size/Type: Lots of buck

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: coalkirk On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 8:27 am

OMG Freddy I'm very sorry Marty has been given this fate. Obvioulsy I've never met you or Marty but I know from your words and deeds over the years that you and Marty are kind and caring folks. You've taken in and taken care of relatives who were at the end of their lives. It takes special people to do that. I admire and agree with the decision not to do chemo. Enjoy the precious time you have left together. Also says volumes that you two chose to stay home and enjoy the simple things you've enjoyed together your whole lives. I'm not a religious person so I won't lie and say I'll be praying for you. But you will be in my thoughts and I will be sending lots of positive energy your way. Lean on this forum when you need to. It has and continues to help me get through the crisis that my dear grand baby Juniper has endured. I wish there was more we could do. You are Marty are already equipped with the character and grace to take this journey together. How special that Martys friend of so many years will be with you on the journey.
coalkirk
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: Harman VF3000
Coal Size/Type: antrhcite/rice coal


Re: It's not good.

PostBy: samhill On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 9:21 am

Not much to say that hasn't already been said Freddy, I admire the decision that the two of you have made. Went thru much the same with my previous wife different location but same cancer. I will forever be thankful that as luck would have it there were slow times at work & I could take a voluntary layoff. The moments we had left together we were able to share together but don't forget there will be times you will need for yourself as well, our prayers go out to you, seems odd but enjoy.
samhill
 
Hot Air Coal Stoker Furnace: keystoker 160
Hand Fed Coal Stove: hitzer 75 in garage
Stove/Furnace Make: keystoker/hitzer
Stove/Furnace Model: koker 160/ hitzer 75

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Hambden Bob On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 9:41 am

Sam,sometimes a Shared Idea or A Wish speaks Volumes by it's very existence. You Wishing Freddy and Marty to Enjoy Their Time Together,Owning This Instead Of It Owning Them,says it ALL ! Sounds like the Bus is indeed Filling Up !
Hambden Bob
 
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Harman 1998 Magnum Stoker
Coal Size/Type: Rice-A-Roni !

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Freddy On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 8:20 pm

What a beautiful bunch of people you all are. Thank you all so much for the thoughts & positive energy. For sure, it's time for me to put on my big boy pants, reach behind, grab my butt & pull forward. Your words are much appreciated.

We are learning to get a grip on the reality of it, and also being able to add some humor...albeit sometimes odd humor... but we have to do the best we can while at the same time dealing with the hard plain truth. Today we went grocery shopping.... already we have learned that Marty is done driving... as we went into the store she said "Oh, I have my DNR papers (do not resuscitate) with me, so if I collapse there's no need to call 911". I said " Soooo... we'll just drag you back to the car, toss you in the back, take you home & call the funeral parlor Monday morning?" We both laughed. I'm sure the end won't come that way, but I guess we are ready for the unexpected.

Today: Lobster! My friends John & Lois brought lobsters & we had a delicious feast. We all admitted that we'd never had lobster with snow on the ground. We played "Blockus" afterwards & had some good smiles.

Now... we're both beat.

Just thought I'd say.... we do believe in chemo therapy, but in the right place. As a matter of fact, the Lois that was here today had breast cancer and chemo 10 years ago. Perfect! It was certainly worth the sickness it brings in a case like hers. But, in some cases, like Marty's, there is just no hope of stopping this. If she started chemo, she would never, ever, have another good day. We plan on having many! I have three jobs in my shop that need to get done.....maybe 3 weeks work. After that, the shop is closed, except for small, quick jobs. And, ya know... one of those jobs might not really need to get done. Hmmmmm.
Freddy
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: Axeman Anderson 130 (pea)
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Reading piece o' junk in the barn (rice)
Coal Size/Type: Pea size, Superior, deep mined

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Cap On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 8:49 pm

Really sad to hear Freddy. Stay strong for Marty. Thanks for telling us this news. We're here to give you help & support. Wish I was close enough to give physical support. Many of us here would do just that.
Cap
 
Hand Fed Coal Boiler: Harman SF 250, domestic hot water loop, heat accumulator

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: CapeCoaler On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 9:56 pm

I like your humor and decision on how to cope with this life event...
I hope and pray that your time is longer than you think...
Enjoy every day and revel in life to it's fullest...
Cut back on the work, enjoy each other...
We have lobster in the winter, oysters straight off the flats and good draft beers...
With the 3 kids I have learned to enjoy the good stuff and deal with some of the crap...
You never know when you will depart...
Some random event...
You have done every thing right, then that one in a billion event happens...
Live life like with no regrets...
You never know what tomorrow will bring...
CapeCoaler
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: want AA130
Hand Fed Coal Stove: DS Machine BS#4, Harman MKII, Hitzer 503,...
Coal Size/Type: Pea/Nut/Stove

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: jpete On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 10:01 pm

Cap wrote:Really sad to hear Freddy. Stay strong for Marty. Thanks for telling us this news. We're here to give you help & support. Wish I was close enough to give physical support. Many of us here would do just that.


Exactly what I was thinking. You have a lot of friends here Freddy. Keep that in mind.
jpete
 
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Harman Mk II
Coal Size/Type: Stove, Nut, Pea
Other Heating: Dino juice

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Keepaeyeonit On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 10:22 pm

Holy crap Freddy I just now saw this man I'm so sorry to hear that,please you two live the rest of her days to the fullest,take care of her like you have for so long and don't worry about the jobs I you have they are not going anywhere I'm sure they will understand.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Marty.
Keepaeyeonit
Keepaeyeonit
 
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Hitzer 983 insert
Coal Size/Type: Mammoth nut
Other Heating: oil furnace,and a crappy heat pump

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Hambden Bob On: Sun Mar 02, 2014 11:42 pm

Solid ! :yes:
Hambden Bob
 
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Harman 1998 Magnum Stoker
Coal Size/Type: Rice-A-Roni !

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Blackrocks On: Mon Mar 03, 2014 3:54 pm

Dear Fred:
There are no words to be said and no way that I can convey the empathy that I feel for you and your dear wife Marty.
Please find strength and comfort in the good thoughts and prayers that come to you from this forum.
There are many people on this forum and much diversity,but on this matter I am positive we are unanimous in wishing this was just not happening.

Godspeed
Rick
Blackrocks
 
Hand Fed Coal Stove: Hitzer 503 insert
Coal Size/Type: Nut --- bagged

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: SWPaDon On: Mon Mar 03, 2014 3:59 pm

Freddy, You and Marty are in my prayers. May God help you both through this.
SWPaDon
 
Hand Fed Coal Furnace: Clayton 1600M
Coal Size/Type: Bituminous. Labeled as 'Big Vein', about the size of acorns. Makes a lot of ash, but heats well and lasts longer than my previous coal.

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: NJJoe On: Mon Mar 03, 2014 4:02 pm

Just read this thread and posting to send my best wishes. Best of luck to you and your family.
NJJoe
 

Re: It's not good.

PostBy: Freddy On: Tue Mar 04, 2014 6:10 am

Good morning,

Eloise spent the evening & I went out....to get taxes done. Not only our taxes, but also Uncle Bills. The poor guy is dad and this year he has to file TWO returns! One for him, one for his estate. I thought you could escape taxes by dying, but nooooo, the Feds follow you into the grave & sweep up whatever they can. In his case there are no taxes due, but there is a little return on the estate. The accountant said if the returns were not done it really wouldn't matter, the Feds would just keep the money. Best to leave a clean paperwork trail I guess, so we're did the returns.

Marty thinks she's getting a cold! Just what she needs. We do have some super duty cough syrup. It helps. Now we just need a 20 square foot Kleenex.

I found myself on the phone yesterday with a new customer. I heard my mouth say "The shop is closed until further notice". Little jobs sneak in though....the Local Fire Dept needs a banner before Friday. That's a 2 hour charity job. I'll charge them cost or a little less. If I gave it to them they'd feel bad & not come back.

Hope you all have a decent day.
Freddy
 
Stoker Coal Boiler: Axeman Anderson 130 (pea)
Hot Air Coal Stoker Stove: Reading piece o' junk in the barn (rice)
Coal Size/Type: Pea size, Superior, deep mined