Got Some Bad News

T Bird · Post by **T Bird** » Sat. Oct. 18, 2014 10:07 pm

most of the other places I frequent have a off topic area, and it appears this is the closest thing we have here. yesterday I god word a dear friend of mine had passed away

I had known him for almost twenty years and he was one of those people that would do anything in his power to help you out. I have lost both of my parents, and been thru the same with my wife's parents but for some reason this time it is different. it may be the fact that he was 5 years younger than me

grave side services tomorrow don't know how I will handle it but one thing is for sure, I will be there

PJT · Post by **PJT** » Sat. Oct. 18, 2014 10:21 pm

Sorry for your loss.

lowfog01 · Post by **lowfog01** » Sun. Oct. 19, 2014 6:21 am

Sorry for your loss. A close friend of mine lost her son a few hours after his birth. Her message to another young mother in the same situation was death sucks and its ok to say that. It's ok to feel bad. Death sucks and life goes on but take what time you need to deal with the loss. Time may not heal all pain but the pain will diminish in time. I'll keep you in my prayers and thoughts as you move ahead. Lisa

michaelanthony · Post by **michaelanthony** » Sun. Oct. 19, 2014 6:28 am

So sorry T Bird, I woke up this morning thank god. Maybe sit a spell with your fallen friend and talk it out after people have left. He would want some time with you.

k9 Bara · Post by **k9 Bara** » Sun. Oct. 19, 2014 9:21 am

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Everyone grieves in their own way. Time and memory's have always helped me. Hope you feel better soon,

freetown fred · Post by **freetown fred** » Sun. Oct. 19, 2014 9:32 am

Ditto on all that k9

T Bird · Post by **T Bird** » Mon. Oct. 20, 2014 10:41 am

thanks everyone. was looking for closure I guess. really didn't get it either I didn't know we were there to bury ashes. that was a strange experience.

freetown fred · Post by **freetown fred** » Mon. Oct. 20, 2014 11:32 am

The Creator has given us the gift of memories TB, roll with them, closure's never been all that it's been cut out to be my friend:)

samhill · Post by **samhill** » Mon. Oct. 20, 2014 12:58 pm

Sorry for your loss T Bird, I had a neighbor just pass as well. Like K-9 said everyone grieves & for that matter goes out in their own way, my friend got cremated as well with his ashes going several different places, no viewing, service or anything just the way he wanted. Helped the ambulance service get him back into bed a few days back & he said it wouldn't be long & a day & a half later he was gone. All in all pretty much my same path, if you weren't there when I came into the world I don't want you there once I leave, lot easier all around IMO it's to each his own.

Hambden Bob · Post by **Hambden Bob** » Mon. Oct. 20, 2014 6:18 pm

This Wasn't Supposed To Be Easy.....In A Way,Thank God It Was hard.....When You think of it,the older We get,and the more Good Folks We Lose,the harder it gets. In my world,it's supposed to be that way. I've lived long enough to really appreciate Kind,Warm People. Some days,we're surrounded by stiffs and snoots. Sounds like this Guy was one of The Genuine Winners.....You can't destroy a Soul....With that said,definitely have a chat with him,and don't sweat the ashes,as that's the remains of what let him down....Do Cherish and Carry the Good that he touched You with.....It'll be alright.....