I found a place that actually has the parts in stock - and lots of them! dont laugh but it is located in Great Britian. The prices are a little high and the shipping kills you but since no one around PA had the parts i needed - or never returned calls when they said they'd check, i dont mind taking my business elsewhere. http://oilstoves.co.uk/
vickie can help you find things via email. they have tech specs listed to find the correct part. my stove is about twenty years old and is used only to supplement the gas furnace (its a franco belge boiler). spending the money to fix the part that just wore out was more of a savings that using straight gas through the winter. just wanted to pass along the site if it could help anyone else.