2016 ~ A Year of Changes for Us

Well,it looks likely for me to make it thru 2016 with no more major changes to report,negative or positive. I am really hoping that 2017 will give me at least 1 major happy change. This being alone gets worse with each passing day.

Happy New Year WH.

Happy New Year, David. Keep your chin up.

Happy New Year David ! May God bless you this new year.
Dave

Keep on keepin-on, Dave. This is just a test as part of God's plan for you. I know you can pass it !

Paul

Living Alone may just be preparing You for a renewed Life with others..... By waking up every morning,You've turned yet another page in a Life worth Living,even without Naomi's Physical Presence......

While I do not envy You,I also know from experience that You have yet to begun to Fight this....... Stand Tall in Hell,My Friend,and Yes-Happy New Year !!

You're never alone, Dave. Look around you. All things and people, even here.

Different, yes. But never alone.

Hang in there!

CoalisCoolxWarm wrote:You're never alone, Dave. Look around you. All things and people, even here.

Different, yes. But never alone.

Hang in there!

I am truly ALONE,i do not expect many to understand the concept,but having other people around is not the cure for being ALONE.
Spending time on the forum does nothing for the aloneness,it only helps pass the time. Having customers come to my shop helps pass the time,it does nothing for the ALONENESS. I could have 100 people with me 24/7 & still be ALONE.

It is hard to explain to those who have never experienced the loss of 1/2 of themselves.I have come to understand that lots of married couples do not talk much between themselves. I spent much time talking with my wife & listening to her,it is very hard to do without that special 1/2 of me to talk with about everything.
Try going to bed ALONE each nite for 10 months & then try to convince yourself that there is no such thing as being ALONE.Or eating 3 meals each day..ALONE, or sitting around during your off time,ALONE. When I need to push a disabled hydrostatic lawn tractor with cold oil, my wife is no longer by my side helping me to push the tractor into the shop,i am truly ALONE.

Try convincing your self that it is only different,that you are not ALONE when you read some really good quote & decide to share it with your wife... and then you realize... oh crap,she is dead,i am ALONE.Yes, I can share some things with my son who still lives with me,but we have different interests in life,he is not my other 1/2, he has his own life to live,his own things to do.

The list could go on,only those who have experienced the loss of a spouse by death can TRULY understand.My father was killed in a farming accident when I was 16,i always thought that I knew how folks felt that lost a spouse to death,i have come to find that I had only experienced a glimmer of the pain associated with losing ones spouse.

WH, this is an opportunity to get to know yourself. Your strengths & weaknesses Take advantage of it. If ya can't love yourself, you'll never be able to love another.

Dave,

"Other people" can never replace a loss, nor do we expect them to do so. The past can never be recaptured, though it is often a significant part of who we are. Special people, especially spouses and family, don't just help shape us, they are part of us- and always will be.

That's a good thing. The more of a part of us that they were, the more we honor them with who we are and how we remember them.

When someone has meant so much to us, don't keep it to yourself. Share what you learned of them and how they would want to you be. Influence and cherish others. Find a young person trying to find their way in life and help them benefit of from the kind of relationship you had with your wife.

So many young people and couples today struggle with finding a way to share themselves, honor each other, and cherish their spouses. Our society doesn't value marriage, fidelity, or faith. Use what you and your wife found together and help others.

We will all leave this life some day. If we don't share and pass on what we've learned and experienced in our short time here, it will be lost.

You have been given a real gift from God. A wonderful woman with whom you felt truly connected and complete, as the Good Lord intended. That connection didn't fade away when she went to her home in Glory. In fact, it seems that you were blessed with such a strong appreciation and understanding that you can carry on and share that gift with others.

A relationship between a man and a woman can only be so much without God. Once you make Him a central part of your lives together it becomes so much more. And we are assured to be together again with Him forever and ever when our work here is done.

Don't hold it in, Dave. Turn your heartache into passion. You've been blessed and prepared in a way not many are. Use that gift to bless others that they, too, can understand and experience the true blessings a holy and God-fearing family life can bring.

Make your wife and God proud of you, Dave. You meet a lot of people. Make an impact on everyone you encounter. In person, on a forum, in church, in prayer, in the grocery store, on the street, everywhere and anywhere. There is no lack of opportunity.

It is hard. Seems impossible for sure. But each step you take is a step out of the loneliness and into your new life. I believe God has a plan for you- to help others and heal you at the same time. You know HE is in control and loves you. Share it and trust in Him.

In Christian love and brotherhood,
John

Seeing that shop reminded me of another small bus. owner who posts how to vids..with a side of comedy (mostly corny)...

May enjoy a look-see

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2Cd9kKYXFakV7ChvU_rjKw