SMITTY wrote:I think how you turn out depends on the first 2 - 5 years of your life. By that point, your personality is pretty much a done deal.
Case in point - I have a close friend that just adopted a 2 year old from a VERY bad situation. They're trying their best to teach her right from wrong, but I can just see they've got their hands full. It's amazing the anger a child picks up at such a young age.
I disagree with you conclusion regarding the cause and effect. I believe the adopted child could be a handful, but I think that was set at conception, not after birth.
When I breed my livestock I'm careful to account for the attributes of the parents. With my goats I can see some of the buck, and some of the doe in the kids. And I'm not just talking about physical attributes. A skittish doe will lead to a skittish kid, no matter how we handle them. An overprotective (mean) rooster will breed overprotective roosters. I could go on and on. I see no reason to believe humans are any different.
Point in case, I have an adopted brother and sister. They were raised in the same house with the same rules as us 3 natural siblings. None of the 3 of us has ever been in trouble. We all live in stable households, hold steady jobs, live normal lives. My adopted brother has been in trouble with the law, has drinking problems, and can't keep a job. My adopted sister has drug problems, has been in and out of rehab, her kids have periodically been taken by the state, the last time when she was caught living with her dealer.
I can think of no better explanation than bad seed. Your main personality traits are set by your parents, and you can do little to change that. We are all capable of doing good, or evil. Some have better control over their base impulses than others, and I believe its this "control" we get from our parents.
The poll doesn't account for the genetics.